Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Love Is The Greatest Doesn't Mean That It's The Most Painless Though....

1 Corinthians 13
Love Is the Greatest
 1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
 8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! 9 Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! 10 But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.
 11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.
 13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

I have written anything of my own in awhile on here copies of emails and etc been busy with kids, school, and working on some lyrics so I haven't focused much time or energy on my note section. While talking to a friend about love and marriage it made me reflect on myself, my situations in life past and present. It reminded me of quotes from here and there that I have heard and I have liked and some that have hit home rather hard at times. Love is by far one of the greatest of our human emotions it can take us from the bottom of the valley to the top of the mountain, however love turned sour can put is right back in that valley. It isn't a painless emotion by any means, but I've come to find that it is worth the pain that we have to experience from time to time. To love someone truly we must accept that person for who they are and for all of their imperfections, we are all very far from being perfect I know some people may love to think that they or their loved one or loved ones are perfect but the truth is we are not perfect. To truly love someone is to even love them with their imperfections all the while knowing and understanding that even you have your imperfections as well. How great it would be if everyday of our lives could be spent feeling what we felt the day we fell in love with our significant others there would be no divorces or broken homes, there would be no children without both parents in the home life would be perfect. I think though what helps get through the rocky parts of a marriage is remembering that time when you knew that you knew that this was indeed the real deal that it was true love and what made you love that person the most. A quote that I like about marriage is this:

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."

~Mignon McLaughlin
It is true we may not like everything about each other, we may fuss, we may fight because we are different we are not the same. But to succeed we do have to keep loving that person although as I like to tell Wayne I love you but sometimes I just don't like you too much lol What happens when we stop falling in love with this person over and over again is what leads to divorce, communication is a must. If you can't talk to your spouse and you can't tell him or her what your needs are, what you want out of life and out of your marriage, if you can't say hey you know what you said really hurt me then I guess it just isn't going to work. There are times in a marriage where I guess you just can't talk to the other spouse cause I know I've come across those times with Wayne when I have something I need to say but he just doesn't want to hear it sometimes we have to wait till the other is ready to hear what we have to say and if they love us there will be some quiet time where we can discuss things. Sometimes even adults need a time out it isn't just for children y'all!
But as much as we may love to point out what is wrong with one another it is very important we don't get stuck there because that will kill any of those lovey dovey feelings we have to point out what is RIGHT about our significant other. No one wants to hear your terrible at this or that or I don't like it when you do this we need some form of knowing that we are doing something right in our relationship yes some form of validation I guess you could call it or appreciation. If I constantly tell Wayne how horrible he is, how much he does wrong what are the chances he isn't going to want to be around me, and vice versa if he is constantly telling me the same things how quickly will I start to look for an exit? No one wants to hear all the negative aspects of their personal selves all the time. I'm not saying that you shouldn't share these things with your significant other no we need to know what we do that causes irritation or pain so we can work on fixing ourselves but we need to hear what we do right as well. The key to a happy marriage lies in being able to talk to each other constructively and loving each other faults and also forgiving one another  and all I forget these things myself from time to time...I think at times we all forget....