Never Be Afraid To Let Your Voice Be Heard

Over the last few days of dealing with school stuff with my child I feel compelled to write this blog to encourage parents don't be afraid to let your voice be heard!  I realize that a lot of people are unsure and not certain of how to go about dealing with bully issues or other issues in your school. But the absolute best thing I can tell you is don't be afraid at all! School officials are just people they have no super human strength, they are not God or Gods for that matter. They eat, sleep, go to the bathroom and get dressed the same as you and I so do not humble yourself before them. Parents have got to start speaking out about this kind of stuff you have got to be your child's voice when they can't do it for their selves! You have got to take a stand and you have got to let them know you will not go quietly you will not back down or back off! Persistance pays off, if you don't get the answers you want or need at the school level take it to your local school board and superintendent, if that don't work take it to the State Board of Education and if you can't get satisfaction use the media to your advantage, if you can afford it get a lawyer, if it's something punishable by law like threats being made or another child touching your child get law enforcement involved! Don't take no for an answer don't be stonewalled and be strong! Your child needs YOU! Find a group online for support and for help there are groups out there! Let your child know that it is perfectly okay to be who they are, let them know that they are loved and accepted and they do not have to live up to someone else idea of what they should be. Always remember you are your child's advocate, you are their rock and they look to you for guidance. Never fear standing up for them...give it your all and show them that you will go as far as you have to go to make them feel safe and secure! Children deserve to have a safe learning environment where they can flurish and grow academically they deserve that. And one more important thing to teach your child about bully's is, people bully for a reason and it isn't because of anything your child has done, they do it because ultimately they feel inferior, there is something they see in their selves that they do not want others to see so before others can find their weakness they are looking for someone else's weakness so that they can divert attention that could be placed on them instead. It isn't fair but at least they would know what makes a bully tick and why they do what they do. I know I have explained this to my child and she saw first hand this year how that is true. Last year a little boy picked on her, I teach my child not to be mean to others, to not be violent in reaction to respect everyone even in situations when others are mean. So this boy picked on her and she let it go. Then this year she had to sit at a table in Science with him and work on a project together..it was then she found out that the boy who is in 8th grade can barely read. She came home and said mommy you were so right about what you said about people who bully they do have something about them that they don't want others to see and I asked her what she was talking about and she told me about the boy, I asked my daughter well did you pick on him cause of his lack of reading skills, and my daughter said no mommy you taught me not to treat others like that, I am proud of her for letting others keep their dignity and not belittling them she is a wonderful girl and she is mine and I thank God he blessed me with her! I have five beautiful and amazing children and I pray God will help me continue to raise loving and caring children who respect others no matter what!

Occupy Our Schools

So my poor 14 year old daughter has been bullied by this girl in her class since the start of the school year and we have gone to Guidance quite a few times and that didn't work, in fact it's almost as if the Guidance counselor didn't really put too much effort into it. Well on December 5th 2011 it escalated cause the girl was talking junk about my child with some other kids and they knew my daughter was getting upset and this bully went up to her and said snitches get stitches cause she knows my daughter will go to someone for help dealing with this situation. So my child filed a bully report and of course they deny it and they say they were all joking around and playing. Umm since when is threatening someone (and to me saying snitches get stitches is a threat it is communicating intent to harm another person) anyways since when is that playing and joking around? Seriously are the school officials really buying this do I need to go to law enforcement, do I need to get a lawyer, do I need to go to the national media to bring their attention to how bullies can get away with making threats towards another child in school? Is our school system that crappy where kids can't even feel safe in school? Is it fair that my child comes home with stomach aches, headaches, is it fair she also comes home crying almost every day while this out of control "child" get's away with it??? I'm done with the injustice and I am going to make as much noise as I have to, to get my child's story heard, get her the help she needs and make schools OPEN their EYES and quit allowing such to go on inside their schools! The good kids in the school deserve to have an education one in which they are not bullied, they aren't worried about the actions of others! It is high time that ALL parents of good children start taking the school back instead of Occupying Wall Street we parents, we the people need to Occupy our own SCHOOLS and get them back from the bullies, from the drug dealers, and other illegal activities that go on! Maybe just maybe we ALL need to push harder, not back down and demand better for our children! Maybe it's time that we stand together and refuse to take NO for an answer! I know I for one will not be dismissed quietly I will do whatever I need to do to protect my child and other innocent children! Childhood should be a fun time not a time where you dread getting up in the morning and going to school to learn. My daughter wants to do so much with her life and I refuse to let anyone make her feel less than what she is! I refuse to allow my child to become another statistic and every parent out there should agree and shouldn't let any child become a statistic! I dropped out of school because I was tired of being picked on I didn't end my life but so many young people are taking this rout these days it's sad! No one should be bullied out of their life, or out of the school! I say put the bullies out they don't want to be there obviously if they did they would be focusing on their education and not other people. Thankfully I have turned myself around and I have finished my bachelors degree and I am working on my Masters degree now I have turned my life way around and yes I am stronger and more understanding for the life I have lived but no child should have to live a life of being bullied! Why can't we just accept the fact no one is the same we all have out positives and negatives we all are not perfect but we all are unique! I am sick of all this that goes on within our schools it's high time we demand better for our children and their future!