It has been said "Sticks and Stones my break my bones but words will never hurt me", this saying couldn't be any further from the truth! To be honest as someone who has been in abusive situations, bullied as a child and married to an abusive husband (my ex not my hubby), I have to say I have shaken the physical pain a lot easier than the words that have been said to me through the years. Words DO hurt a lot worse than hitting am I saying go kick someones behind NO NO NO! We all should respect one another. Not one human being is better than another GOD loves us ALL not just you, or you, and not just me but EVERYONE the saints and the sinners, the good and the bad! His son was sent to die for each of us not just a select few! I can remember every single insult hurled at me growing up by my classmates, by my own grandfather most day's I'm good with it I have forgiven but they still bring tears to my eyes because words cut much deeper when I think about it and that usually happens when I have to deal with other kids being less than nice to my children, because I can relate to how they feel I know their pain so I hurt for them not for Lori I'm a grown woman now who can deal with almost anything life throws at me because of how I grew up and because of my experiences but I hurt for my kids and for other children too. Childhood shouldn't hurt it should be some of the most fun times of your life. My experience has built me up, made me stronger, made me more understanding of others and has given me wisdom in situations that I needed it.
But I can tell you today that I'd rather take on any pain for my children so they would never have to hurt of suffer because of others meanness! Are we really that wrapped up as parents in ourselves or our busy lives to not teach our children right from wrong, to correct them when they hurt others it don't have to be physical hurt but emotional hurt it all should always be addressed and corrected CHILDREN can not just be left to make the choices to do the right thing on their own it takes PARENTS stepping up and telling them what is right, what is wrong and correcting them!
I have dealt with stuff with my older two that I wouldn't wish on anyone because of the actions of other people's children! My oldest who probably will get mad at me for sharing this but I have to share it because I have to show others just how bad bullying is my oldest, has tried to OD on medication before, she use to be a cutter as well as a parent some of you will never know how much that hurt me to see her feel so bad because of other people this is my baby she isn't perfect but she is MINE my flesh and blood and others making her feel less than what she is something that hurt me so deeply my baby I carried her for nine months and gave birth to her and she didn't feel her life was worth living because of OTHER PEOPLES CHILDREN! Praise God she doesn't do this anymore she has her moments she has a lot of anger built up over the years but we are working on that together she has a better understanding of herself and I believe a better understanding of God's love for her and I hope she never goes down that path again because she is loved and she is wanted and I will never stand for anyone making her feel inferior! In recent months I have dealt with my 14 year old being bullied and this from people she thought were friends I think this hurts worse than someone who never said they were your friends. Rumor mills and Burn Pages on facebook are BAD things I urge parents who have kids on facebook PLEASE check who your child is friends with! Someone posted something so mean about her on there about her I watched my baby girl curl in a ball and cry as if her heart was breaking and heard her say a familiar phrase I want to die...anger, hurt for her welled up in my heart she is my flesh I too carried her for 9 months and have loved her her WHOLE life. Some parents know the pain of dealing with hearing these words come out of their children's mouth and again I wouldn't even wish this on the parents of the kids inflicting the pain, this is more hurt and more pain than being picked on myself this is my baby and God intrust ME to take care of her and protect her. Thankfully God has given me the strength to pull it together many occasions and hold my babies and love them through their pain and tell them to pray for those who hurt them because they need all the prayer they can get! To forgive the ones that hurt them, to accept their selves for who they are and to know they are loved, they are special they are cared for. It doesn't matter if the world accepts them, it don't matter if so and so will be their friend popularity is highly over rated now being your own person is where it's at don't let others ever define you you define yourself. You live for what God wants you to do with your life and God never wants you to throw your life away over the ignorant words of another human being! Life is precious and fleeting make the most of your life! The advice I give my kids I would give anyone and it seems to be doing good. My children no longer give anybodies words power over their lives. My children are growing more secure in who they are. I have long had a theory that bullies, bully people simply because somewhere deep down there is something they feel inferior about something that is wrong with them that they don't want anyone to notice, I have had that theory validated just the other week when Adreanna came home and said mommy you know that boy that picked on me last year well I had to work with him in Science class today we had to do some reading together and mommy he can't read hardly this boy is in the 8th grade and can barely read that in itself is sad. She said mommy you were right about what you said about bullies, I said well you didn't laugh at him did you she said no mommy I helped him! My daughter is turning into a wonderful, loving and accepting person both of them are. When they are my age I imagine they will be stronger than I am now. I wish more parents took the time to care about their own children, and to correct their own children when they say and do harmful things to others. We live in a society where everyone is always on the go too busy to slow down, too busy to teach their children and correct them, some are just too self absorbed. But my greatest blessings are my babies and I'll never be too busy to listen to them, and in the same token I will never be too busy to correct them either, my kids are not perfect by any means but I will correct them if I find they are causing another human being pain I don't take that lightly. What spurred this blog of sorts another young life is gone all because of the others being cruel and vicious with their words. Another set of parents will lay their child to rest and a parent should never know the pain of burying a child that's my thoughts it has to be one of the single most painful things a parent can experience I pray to God that my kids know they are loved and it's okay to be whoever they are that I will love them and I will accept them. I hope my kids will never give anyone and their words that much power over their lives I pray that God will keep them strong and that they will understand that they are special that they don't have to be carbon copies of other peoples idea of perfect.
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